Habit of Collaboration

Habit of Collaboration

Parent Personal Integrity check

1. I do not like sharing my ideas with a group because I think it is unfair.
2. I will only work as much as other people in my group work.
3. I have ask my child’s teacher to move him to another class or group because I do not like his group mates who are not as smart as him.

Teaching children to work well with others is a skill they need if you want them to be successful. They will need to know themselves, what roles they can play in a group, how to negotiate, and rally others behind an idea that they may have. The habit of collaboration is especially important for a future entrepreneur, who will need others to support his ideas and customers to by his products.

How can the Habit of Collaboration be developed

Learn to work within a team.

I know of parents who believe that because their child is so intelligent and competent, he should be given individual work instead of group work.  These kids end up dictating to others, not listening to other ideas and doing all the work. Inasmuch as parents should maximize their child’s potential. They also have to teach children the value of teamwork. Lyndon Johnson’s wise words were, “There are no problems we cannot solve together, and very few that we can solve by ourselves”. Encourage children to help others without being asked, to help them gain the habit of collaboration.

Leadership is for everyone. As the founder of an MI School, advocate to children that they are all capable of being a leader in an area of strong intelligence and interest. However, being a leader means that they should be willing to pay the price for their vision. Children often complain to their parents, “It’s not fair! I do all the work in our group!” I tell parents that before they share their child’s perspective. They should take the opportunity to teach them how to lead. Tell children two things: the first is “equal is not always the same”. God gave us different gifts and intelligences. Tell your group mates what needs to be done and ask them to volunteer what they can do best. The second is “to whom much is given, much expected.” Leaders will always do what is necessary to get the job done, that is why they are leaders. Entrepreneurs always see what others do not see.

Share your strengths and recognize your limitations. Teach children to be aware of what they are good at so that they can contribute it to the group. They should also be aware of their weaknesses so that they can invite others to work with them. One time, a group of children worked on a book about the Philippine rainforest. Immediately, children took on different roles: “I am picture smart, I can draw”, “I am work smart, I can help think of the store”, “I am nature smart I can research about the animals”, etc. it was non competitive but collaborative. Get siblings to work together at home to practice collaboration and don’t forget to reinforce their self-awareness and self-esteem by acknowledging their strengths. For example, “Let’s make over this room. Ana, you’re picture smart, what color do you think we should use? Ben, you are body smart and can paint evenly, can you help me with that wall?”

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Habit of Responsibility and Accountability

Habit of Responsibility and Accountability

Parent personal integrity check

1. I have other people or a situation as an excuse for not being able to do my work
2. I sometimes fail to meet deadlines.
3. I have started some projects that I never got around to finishing.
4. I am willing to do my child’s homework or project if it will help him get a high grade.

Teaching kids to be accountable for their actions starts will positive discipline and the use of logical consequences. Kids need to know that their choices have corresponding consequences. If they stay up late watching TV, the next morning they will be sleepy in class. If they play during class and are not able to copy homework, then they will have to copy it during break time, taking away time from playing with their friends. Children have to learn that they need to take responsibility for the choices they make. The worst thing a parent can do out of love is to do their children’s responsibilities because they will never learn. You can support and guide but you should NEVER do their work for them.

     

Lesson from parents – Habit of Responsibility

Be Chan(Chariman, Suyen Corporation*)

“My mom had very good organizational skills. She tough us all to be hands-on. She set the example by always being visibly present in the office and in the factory. She knew everyone’s responsibilities. I would always remember her telling all of us to take care of the family name. we should not do anything that would put the Chans in a bad light. “Pay all your bills!”, she would always tell us. I also learned from her the value of dedication, perseverance and hard work. “when I was a kid, my dad had a heart attack. This left half of his body paralyzed. It was my mom who continued with the business. As a woman, she had to be strong in running the business and raising a family. After all, there were seven of us she had to nurture.

How can the Habit of Responsibility and Accountability

be developed

Be Responsible for your work. Give your children responsibilities at home, like chores. Your toddler should be expected to clean up after playing. Older kids should be responsible for cleaning their room or doing errands. The very basic responsibility of children is to do homework. Do not do your child’s homework. Do not be tempted to give his teacher a false excuse, such as being sick, just so he will be excused for not being able to turn in homework on time. Doing homework is not optional. As a parents, you should guide them into the habit of turning in quality work.

Be Accountable for your action and decision. Accept responsibility for your mistakes. Allow kids to make mistakes and experience the logical consequences of the decision they make. I remember when my daughter forgot the book that she needed to read for a quiz the following day in school. I always remind her to check her things before going home but she was to eager to play. I refused to allow her to go back to school for it. She had to wake up rally early to get to school an hour before so that she could study for her quiz. She has never left a book since.

Don’t live beyond your means. If you can’t afford it, don’t buy it. Teach children to be responsible for how they spend money. I remember speaking to a parent who shared his heartache. He said that as far as he can remember, he has been bailing out his 30 year-old son from debt by paying for his credit card bills. He was hoping that by now, his son would have learned his lesson, but his disappointment, he continues to fall into debt. I told him that maybe this time, he should allow his son to take responsibility for his action. Instead of paying for his debt, the most he can do is to guide his son in thinking of a way to pay for it. Perhaps he can do extra work or save more. Financial responsibility is a habit that is indispensable to a future entrepreneur.

Meet deadlines. Be responsible for managing and using your time wisely. Teach children to use time management tools. Buy them a calendar or a planner to remind themselves when things are due.

Finish what you start. Do not the habit of “ningas kugon”(i.e starting something with much excitement, and then leaving it unfinished as they move on to another more interesting task). If they ask you to enroll them in a class, make sure they complete the course. Children should know that they have the responsibility to finish something even if it is no longer interesting, or if it has become difficult. As entrepreneurs, they will fail many times before they find their his breakthrough idea!

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Habit of Respect

Habit of Respect

Parent personal integrity check

1. I sometimes borrow things without asking permission.
2. I sometimes gossip about my co workers or family member
3. I cannot help but use foul language to make a point when I am angry.
4. I think that I know best when it comes to my children; they should listen to me all the time.

Treat children with respect and they will learn to be respectful, kindness, consideration, courtesy  and understanding are all part of the habit of respect. How children are treated at home becomes a template for how they treat other children, and eventually, their bosses, co workers, subordinates and customers.

Lesson from Parents – Habit of Respect

Tony Tan Caktiong

(President and CEO, Jolibee Food Corp.)

            While growing up in Davao(Souther Mindanao), he and his brothers worked in their family restaurant where their father was also the chef. From his parents, they learned two basic ingredients that led to the Jolibee phenomenon – good food and humility.

            Tan Caktiong credits his parents for cultivating his entrepreneurial spirit and instilling in him the values of respect and humility, which are now ingrained in the corporate culture of Jolibee. Everyone in Jolibee – from the CEO to a store’s kitchen crew – respectfully address each other as “Sir” or “Ma’am”

How can the Habit of Respect be developed?

Respect the rights and things of others. Teach children to ask permission first before tanking anything that is not theirs. “Ask ate if you can barrow her scissors but promise to take care of it”. “Ask lola if you can have some of the cake” or “I know that you want to borrow the magazine but she bought it so she has right to read it first”. Practice respect at home.

            Do not gossip about others. The habit of gossiping is the hardest to break so do not get your child started on it. Do not talk about people behind their backs(especially family member and co-workers). When children tattle-tale or “make Sumbong”, encourage them to go to that person and tell them they feel.

Be courteous. Watch your language. Do not say anything you do not want your child to repeat. Believe me they will! Be courteous to everyone. Say “please” and “thank you” even to salespersons. Waiters and household help. You need to always be polite and courteous to everyone, regardless of rank or status, because they may be your costumers in the future.

Be Respectful when dealing with others. Show kindness and consideration when dealing with others. One day, a some boys were excitedly chatting in the office, not knowing that they were noisy. I went over to them and instead of reprimanding them, I told them respectfully: “Boys I have a hard time working because of your noise, kindly tone it down.” My daughter who heard me, said, “Mom, I think it’s great how you tell people what to do without making them fell bad. I will try your way with a classmate who does not want to cooperate. He doesn’t like being scolded or shouted at but when you ask him nicely, he’ll follow.” If you shout at your helpers or workers and get results, your child will probably end up shouting at her employees too!

Respect other for who they are. Learning to accept others for who they are depends on how accepted you yourself feel. If parents have the habit of comparing children or of showing favoritism for the “smart” one, their children will probably only respect people whom they like. Let us be models for our children to respect people regardless of their looks, social status, gender and capability. We should show respect towards others regardless of how we feel about them or whether or not we like them.

Respect other people’s ideas and point of view. We should genuinely LISTEN to children when they express a thought, concern or story. Sometimes it is difficult when we are so busy and what they are saying may sound trivial or may just be an annoying question, BUT if we want them to learn to listen to us, we need to listen to them. What is worse is when they start to question you! It will be a challenge to keep your cool and respect their point of view. When they see that you are more open to getting at the truth than just “being right”, they too will learn to keep an open mind and respect other people’s perspectives, especially those they do not always agree with. An entrepreneur is the boss and will need to work with others who will support his ideas. You will need to convince and not coerce people to share your ideas.

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Habit of Self discipline

Habit of Self discipline

Parent personal integrity check

1. I have been late more than once to a meeting during past month.
2. I have given a false excuse for being absent at work.
3. I think that there is nothing wrong with going on facebook or chatting with my friends during office hours as long as I get my work done.

The habit of self-discipline the first key to developing good work ethic. Student who are intelligent and have good ideas but because of lack of self – discipline, they do not perform according to their potential. They are habitually late and would submit sloppy work. On the other hand, those with very good work habits or “may sipat at tiyaga”, are able to be successful despite their limitations.

Lesson from Parents – Habit of Self Discipline

Marixi Prieto

(Chairperson, Philippine Daily Inquirer, Inc.)

Her father always emphasized that businesses should be self-sustaining, and should not be funded heavily by debt. That kind of conservatism is reflected in the family lifestyle as well. “We come from that school where we don’t look for grander things. We just work hard at what we do. We know we cannot have everything,” she says.

            It was not only her father who influenced her style of business, so did her mother. “My mother ran a fantastic office. She taught us about responsibility and to rely on ourselves.” She was also a stickler for good grooming, such that marixi and her siblings are always well turned out.

How can the Habit of Self Discipline be developed?

Come on time. Say NO to the habit of “Filipino Time”. Teach kids to go to school and to submit requirements on time. Don’t be one of those parents who children use as an excuse – “Sorry for being late. My mom took so long in dressing up!”

Dress for success. Make good grooming and neatness a habit. There is no need to always have new clothes or be fashionable. But children should be asked to dress appropriately and always be well groomed.

Do your work regardless of how you feel about it. This attitude is important if you want your child to learn to be professional. Do not encourage the habit of giving EXCUSES. As professional adults, we should model going to work every morning, morning, regardless of whether we feel sleepy, lazy or tired. Do not allow your child to use the “I don’t fell well” excuse for not going to school or doing his or her work.

Do your work even when no one is looking. Children with no self-discipline will behave differently when there is no teacher or parent around. It is a joy to enter a preschool classroom and see children busy working in different learning areas, even when a teacher is not present. This means that hey have internalized the self – discipline to do their work and are no doing it simply to please their teacher, or out of fear of consequences. As a parent, teaching our kids “to choose to do what is right even when no one is looking” is a worthwhile investment because we cannot always be with them and they need to make right decisions even without us. Setting clear expectations helps children meet these even if you are not around. “Do your homework on your own and I will check it when I get home” helps your child acquire self discipline so that when she grows up she will not be one of those workers who will epitomize the saying: “Whan the cat is away, the mouse will play”.

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Work Ethics

Work Ethics

Character count in business

I cannot imagine raising entrepreneurs without having to tackle ethics. I feel that teaching children right from wrong is even more important than teaching them reading and math. An entrepreneurial mind without a proper moral compass can be dangerous. Just think of all the intelligent Filipino businessmen and politicians who have misused funds for self gain. We don’t want our children to grow up that way.

            Our children are the next generation of Filipinos. What children perceive to be right and wrong often mirrors parental and societal values. How kids make decisions in ethical situations will determine how they will make decisions as adults. Taking candy that is not theirs will predispose them to pilfer money or company supplies. Borrowing without permission is the first step to tolerance for kiting money. Copying someone else’s work will be the beginning of a life of piracy. Tolerance for unethical acts in childhood or during the teenage years will eventually be manifested in their workplace ethics.

Changing the face of business in the Philippines:

Teaching work ethics to the next generation

The annual political and economic risk consultancy(PERC) poll ranked the Philippine as the fourth most corrupt country in the southeast Asia(2010)

            If we want to see a better Philippine through entrepreneurship and leadership, we need to start in our homes, with our own children. Eradicating corruption in the Philippines is in the hands of every parent and teacher.

Choose to do what is right

            This is advocacy when speaking with our students. Expect them to choose to do what is right even when no one is looking. I think parents should model and embrace this positive expectation because the formation of ethical values begins at home. We need to have a stronger voice as parents because we are going against the popular culture.

It seems that their American counterparts are indicative of the popular culture among the Filipino youth. An alarming number of them admitted to lying, cheating and stealing based on the 2008 Report Card on the Ethics of American Youth. The results of the survey showed that young people recognize that ethics and character are important on both a personal level and in business, but they express very cynical attitudes about whether a person can be ethical and still be successful. This same view is somewhat shared by Filipino youth in their tolerance for corrupt practices in the country.

Parents are the first teachers of work ethics. Our children learn from what we say and do. The decisions that we make every day are their living examples. Before we talk about how to teach our children work ethics, I would like you to reflect on your personal integrity. They say that actions speak louder than words. Unless you are aware of your own mindset, attitudes, values and behavior, you may unwittingly be raising unethical children thought your example.

Children Learn

Children Learn What They Live

If the children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If the children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If the children live with fear, they learn to apprehensive.

If the children live with pity, they learn to sorry for themselves.

If the children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If the children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If the children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

If the children live with encouragement, they learn to confidence.

If the children live with tolerance, they learn to patience.

If the children live with praise, they learn to appreciation.

If the children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If the children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If the children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.

If the children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If the children live with honesty, they learn to truthfulness.

If the children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If the children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves.

If the children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live

Excepted from the book Hyperlinkhttp://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/external-search/1021145980-9000959?keyword=CHILDREN+LEARN+WHAT+THEY$tag=drchadwickshurth&Search=Go+To+Amaxon CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE by Dorothy law nolte and Rochel Harris

PARENT PERSONAL INTEGRITY CHECK

1. These is no point in following rules because other people do not.
2. it is not wrong to tell a small lie, exaggerate or cheat occasionally to help my self or other succeed.
3. I will earn money first and I will think about doing good work later.
4. people who bend rules or do unethical activities will become successful faster
5. I am willing to do unethical work to secure my child’s future.

Small lessons can make a big difference

In developing our children’s sense of ethics. As parents, our own actions and attitudes influence the formation of good work ethics among our children. Inasmuch as children learn through example, a positive approach to teaching children good work ethics is to instill in them 6 Habit of Good Work Ethics. Since a “habit” is a disposition of mind and character, good habits will guide their thoughts, behavior and decisions. We need to be consistent in our positive example and expectations of good work ethics in our children because habits are formed through frequent repetition.

           

            As you read the tips on helping our children learn the habits of good work ethics, begin with the parent personal integrity check. Hopefully, it will help you to better guide your children.

6 Habits of Good Work Ethics

1. Self – Discipline

2. Respect

3. Responsibility and Accountability

4. Collaboration

5. Hard Work and Excellence

6. Integrity and Honesty

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Favorite Recipes for Thanksgiving's Top Twelve Favorite Vegetables

Welcome to A Veggie Venture's collection of
Thanksgiving vegetable recipes!

Since 2006, it's tradition at A Veggie Venture to feature Thanksgiving vegetable recipes throughout November. This collection features recipes for your favorite Thanksgiving vegetables, the ones long-time readers and frequent visitors themselves voted for! The collection holds more than three dozen featured Thanksgiving recipes, all:

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Greek Lentil Soup ♥

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A simple lentil soup, cooked in a broth scented with bay leaf, garlic, rosemary and a surprise ingredient, cinnamon. Vegan.

I've been mesmerized by the photographs from a new-ish cookbook by Tessa Kiros. I loved an earlier cookbook, Falling Cloudberries: A World of Family Recipes, mostly because it's an unlikely combination of Finnish, Greek and South African recipes, cuisines I've been lucky to know, in person, right in situ. (And long-time readers have seen two recipes from Falling Cloudberries, Lamb Roast with Lemon & Oregano and Homemade Finnish Mustard which is always -- always -- in my fridge.)

The new cookbook focuses on just one of those food traditions, Food From Many Greek Kitchens. The photos are only occasionally of food, mostly of home life, perhaps, I suspect, of a romantic notion of a home life that comes from another era. Rustic. Colorful. Everyday. Like photographs so old the faces are rubbed away. Church doors emblazoned with Greek crosses. Old flags and bottles and postcards and chairs. Shop windows with sausages and crusty loaves of bread. Greek Orthodox clerical robes. Well-worn kitchen bowls and cutting boards.
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